COMM 277 Week 2 Part 2 – Describing Communication Patterns
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Chamberlain University
COMM-277 Interpersonal Communication
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Week 2 CCC Template: Part 2 – Describing Communication Patterns
Part 1: Identifying Patterns
Strategic Step 1
What is your first strategic step?
My initial strategy is to embrace the understanding that communication is an ongoing process rather than a single isolated event. For instance, I cannot expect my brother to immediately accept my decision when I inform him that I cannot babysit his daughter. This level of understanding requires multiple conversations to shift the perception he currently holds. His belief likely stems from a routine where he’s often available, so he assumes I should be too. It is important that I communicate not just my unavailability but also the reasons behind it—whether it’s work, school, or other responsibilities. As McLean (2018) explains, “Communication is a dynamic process, where people come together, mingle, and then part.” Recognizing this helps me begin the journey of transforming our interactions so they conclude with mutual understanding, free from emotional fallout.
Strategic Step 2
What is your second strategic step?
My second strategy is to become more observant of my brother’s non-verbal and verbal reactions during our conversations. This will help me develop more effective and empathetic ways to say “no.” By paying attention to how he responds to different words or tones, I can better align my communication style with his and avoid any misunderstanding that may suggest I am trying to avoid spending time with my niece. Monitoring his body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice will provide valuable cues. These cues will help me convey that I am simply busy—not dismissive of my family. As I become more skilled in this approach, I believe I will develop the confidence to communicate my limits without triggering negative emotions.
Strategic Step 3
What is your third strategic step?
Another essential strategy I plan to use is remembering that communication is irreversible. Conversations can become emotionally charged, and words spoken in frustration or anger can leave lasting scars. It’s vital that I remain composed and measured even if my brother responds emotionally to my refusal. I cannot undo or erase what I say, so my words must be deliberate and sensitive. This approach will allow me to uphold our relationship while still setting boundaries. I aim to reduce the possibility of regret by thinking through my words and tone ahead of time, knowing that once spoken, they cannot be taken back.
Declarations
| Declaration | Commitment |
|---|---|
| Declaration 1: Understanding communication as a process | I will take a patient approach to each conversation with my brother, particularly when I must tell him that I cannot babysit. By carefully planning my words and maintaining control over my emotions, I hope to foster a more thoughtful and respectful communication dynamic. Reacting emotionally could derail the positive trajectory I aim to establish. |
| Declaration 2: Watching reactions | I will closely observe my brother’s responses—both verbal and non-verbal—during our conversations. By aligning my communication style with his, including mimicking shared concerns, I can create an emotionally connective message that resonates. Misreading these cues, however, could worsen the situation, so accuracy in interpretation is essential. |
| Declaration 3: Communication is irreversible | I will reflect carefully before speaking, especially in emotionally sensitive discussions. By crafting my words with intention and calmness, I can avoid statements that may seem hurtful or dismissive. Understanding the permanence of words motivates me to remain centered and prevent impulsive remarks that could damage our sibling bond. |
Part 2: Plan and Practice
2A. Surroundings
Where is the best place to have this conversation and why?
The most suitable setting for this conversation with my brother would be my kitchen. Although this may seem unusual, it is a familiar and comforting space for both of us. I frequently host family meals and gatherings there, and it carries a rich history of laughter, games, heartfelt talks, and even resolutions of past conflicts. The open, welcoming nature of the kitchen promotes emotional safety and calm, which are crucial for effective communication. Given this shared emotional history, it is the ideal space to hold a conversation that might otherwise be challenging.
2B. People
Who will be involved in the conversation and why?
Ideally, the conversation should include only my brother and me. While our spouses might wish to be involved, I feel their presence could bias the interaction and shift the focus away from mutual understanding. When couples are present, they often side with their partner, which may hinder effective communication. Keeping the conversation between just the two of us allows for a more genuine exchange. I intend to explain my limitations—due to work, school, and parental responsibilities—so he understands that my inability to help isn’t a lack of love or willingness but a matter of scheduling and capacity.
2C. Reflection
What did you learn from your covert rehearsals?
Through private rehearsals, I developed a structured plan aimed at creating a positive outcome for both myself and my brother. These mental rehearsals emphasized the importance of viewing communication as an evolving process. Understanding that a resolution may not be reached in a single conversation has been key. Maintaining emotional control and expressing my feelings in a respectful and mature manner will help us move closer to mutual understanding. Practicing the goals I have set—especially those that involve empathy and clarity—will support open and honest dialogue. Over time, these rehearsals will make our conversations more natural and constructive.
References
McLean, S. (2018). Exploring interpersonal communication (2nd ed.). Boston Academic Publishing.